Lala.com's Demise: The Seven Stages of Grief
Lala.com is gone. Or soon will be, as Apple decided to shut down the music service website on May 31.

I haven't used Lala.com that long, and I guess I should have known that Apple, after purchasing the company in December, would either wrap the site's functionality into future versions of iTunes or shut it down to stop it from competing with their existing service. I should have known it was doomed.
I'd only spent about $60 there, and I only had a few hundred songs in my online collection, but I had visions of Android running Flash 10.1 on my Nexus One, allowing me to access my music (including over-represented Scottish pop tunes) from anywhere at any time.
But it was not to be, and instead I find myself going through the seven stages of grief (albeit at an accelerated rate) over Lala's closing. To wit (based on the stages as articulated here):
1. SHOCK AND DENIAL
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once.
I got the e-mail with the news last night. I was up late, and I saw the e-mail right before bed. I shook my head and couldn't believe what I was reading.
My sleep was fitful and non-restive.
2. PAIN AND GUILT
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.
I woke up this morning with a pit in my stomach, thinking about how all my Web-based Dropkick songs were going to disappear into the ether.
3. ANGER AND BARGAINING
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.
As I walked to my car, I became furious at Apple. How dare they stop me from getting to MY music? How could they stop me from using the cloud-based service that I had encouraged so many of my friends to use? Why did this happen to me?
I angrily updated my Facebook status and drove to work.
4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.
I mentioned it to co-workers, who seemed largely indifferent. I received some Facebook status comments, but nothing seemed to help. I already missed Lala.com, and no one was going to make me feel better.
:(

5. THE UPWARD TURN
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.
Lunch came around. I had tacos, and I felt a little better.
6. RECONSTRUCTION AND WORKING THROUGH
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one.
There were other ways for me to listen to Teenage Fanclub. CDs. MP3s.
Maybe even... iTunes.
7. ACCEPTANCE AND HOPE
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation.
I deleted my angry Facebook status. It's OK. I will be OK.
Lala.com is gone, but the concept of my music living in the cloud is not. I have hope that, sometime soon, I will be able to buy Web songs for less than nine cents a song.











